Welcome !
Here is an explanation of what EssentialsX is.
First EssentialsX is a plugin, which means you need a plugin loader like Paper/Spigot or Bukkit/Spigot
(PS : Spigot is a Plugin library)
Second To have Essentials in your server you need to download it from Spigot Page, the .jar and the .zip file
If you use Aternos as your server hoster, you need to go to plugins and Essentials is on first page. Then click on the dwnld button and when the Checkmark appears it's done.
However if you use Eagler Host as your eaglerserver hoster, they are 2 possibilities :
1 : You still haven't made ur server Simple ! When it will ask for a version, choose 1.12.2 (recommended) and choose plugins. Essentials is on the recommended so be sure to check it.
2 : You already made your server Then go to plugins then search "EssentialsX" and ur done.
This was the part on how to get Essentials on your server ! Now let's see how it functions !
Essentials replaces all of Minecraft default cmds by their ones.
For example when you will do
/give Yoshibest58_2 arrow
it's like you did
/essentials:give Yoshibest58_2 arrow
WARNING FOR /give ! If you don't put a number after the item name, it will automatically give you a stack of it so be sure to put "1" if you only want one
To understand Essentials it's best to use examples !
Here are some cmds that drastically changes from Essentials !
/weather sun
is equal to
/weather clear
/i totem
is equal to
/give <yourself> totem_of_undying[max_stack_size=64] 64
DO NOT GET CONFUSE ON THIS ONE
/msg <person> <message>
it's not the same "whispers" from mineecraft cmd
/minecraft:msg <person> <message>
But Essentials adds more cmds to get easier here are a brief list (not all adds)
/gmc
Set your gamemode to Creative
/gms
Set your gamemode to Survival
/gmsp
Set your gamemode to Spectator
/gma
Set your gamemode to Adventure
/craft
Acess a Virtual Crafting Table
/loom
Acess a Virtual Loom
/ec
Acess your Ender Chest
/balance
Get your balance
/eco <subcommand>
Essentials counted but is only here if plugin Vault and PlaceholderAPI as a shop dependant. But it's imployed as an essentials cmd
/i <item> <count> <NBT>
Is /give but for yourself (faster)
** HOPE IT ANNOYED YOU TO READ ALL OF THAT**